In Modern Culture we use to avoid responsibility in exchange for blaming.
If you use your anger unconsciously and you feel “right” about being angry at people, institutions, laws, politics, your addictions, your friends etc. you are probably serving the world of blaming. Blaming is a conscious or unconscious use of anger with the purpose to avoid responsibility. It put’s the power of your anger onto other people, any made up reasons, causes, ideas and justifications. ‘It’s their fault, they should have done better, if people would only give me more attention, money or time, then I would not suffer now! If they didn’t expect so much from me, I would be fine!’. These are very typical words of blaming. Check yourself if you find voices like these somewhere inside of you. They belong to a part of yourself. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have these voices in you.

In modern culture regarding the Feeling of Fear you basically got two choices and in only one of them you get trained to become a master. Avoiding Fear. The other choice is to constantly feel Fear of making a mistake.
Many housholds and public schools function with these limited and unconscious choices at their base. If you grew up in modern culture gameworlds, the following might apply: As you grow up, you probably unconsciously had to choose every day anew between one of the choices so that you could be part of their culture. Making use of your fear to align your actions with the ‘right’ behavior and the ‘right’ answers might have been one of the main ways to spend your attention. Doing what the teacher benefits. Asking yourself what your father wants, so you get his attention. Or, ‘What does my mother need from me so she is okay? I need her to be okay so I can be okay’.

I was sitting in the park a couple of days ago and detected a new question to live. Am I the filter of my own fear?

Fear is a source of energy. It’s a feeling. It’s a neutral feeling, just like the other three pure feelings anger, sadness and joy are. I am writing this article from the perspective, that all other feelings then these four are mixations out of these four.

Ich benutze Wut um diesen Artikel zu schreiben. Ich benutze Wut um mir die Nase zu putzen. Ich benutze Wut wenn ich etwas ändern will, in Beziehungen für Klarheit sorge und den Redefluss von Klienten in meinen Sitzungen unterbreche, um mit ihnen einen Schritt weiter zu kommen.

Sie ist so alltäglich, dass es mir rätselhaft scheint, wie ich einen Großteil der letzten 26 Jahre ohne Bewusstsein über die Magie von Wut gelebt habe. Wie gesagt, ohne Bewusstsein.